Brandon and Kathy Gunn married on September 1, 2007, but they didn’t open one of their weddings presents until nearly nine years after they said, “I do.”
The reason? It was gift marked “DO NOT OPEN UNTIL 1ST DISAGREEMENT.” Kathy wrote in a post shared with the Facebook page Love What Matters, that she and her husband had plenty of arguments over the years and at one point they even considered giving up, but they never opened the gift from her Aunt Allison.
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“I honestly think that we both avoided turning to the box, because it would have symbolized our failure,” Kathy wrote. “To us, it would have meant that we didn’t have what it takes to make our marriage work – and we’re both too stubborn and determined for that.”
Kathy continued by saying that the couple assumed what was inside the box would “save” their marriage. After all, her Aunt Allison and Uncle Bill, who had given them the gift, had been married for nearly 50 years. They must know some secret to a happy marriage!
One day the Gunns decided it was time to open the present, but not because they finally had a huge argument, but because they “realized that the tools for creating and maintaining a strong, healthy marriage were never within that box – they were within us.”
When they opened the gift they realized it didn’t contain any secrets.
Instead it contained candles, wine glasses, and two individually wrapped gifts, one for Kathy and one for Brandon. Each received $100 in cash in their wrapped gift. Written on Kathy’s gift was instructions to go out and buy a “pizza, shrimp or something you both like” and Brandon’s gift instructed him to use his money to purchase flowers and a bottle of wine.
Although the gift did not give them any advice on how to handle the rough patches of marriage, Kathy wrote that in some way it did help, because it was a reminder to always take a step back and reassess their situation. Because they always made that conscious decision to work it out together, they were able to experience a joyful, successful marriage.
“For 9 years (and three moves) that box sat high on a shelf in various closets gathering dust, yet it somehow taught us about tolerance, understanding, compromise and patience,” wrote Kathy. “Our marriage strengthened as we became best friends, partners, and teammates.”
(H/T: Good News Network)