Roberto Gaspar was just a teenager when he first became a father. His then-girlfriend had given birth to twin baby boys, and swiftly put them up for adoption as she lived a troubled life and knew she could not take care of the kids.
She and Gaspar had split up and parted ways, and he never got wind of any information about these babies again.
But over two decades later, Gaspar had started a family of his own. Now 40 years old, he and his partner recently welcomed a newborn into their lives.
Gaspar became a dad for the seventh time on Friday the 13th in October, 2017.
The joyous occasion had him thinking of Robert and Ramando—the twin boys who were put up for adoption before he even really got to know them. The idea nagged at him until he turned to his partner Dana Sinclair and said, “You know, I really got to find a way to find my boys. I’m going crazy about these boys, I cant find them.”
Sinclair suggested they take to social media to get the word out, so he did.
“Hi my name is Roberto Gaspar, I am looking to find my twin boys,” he wrote.
All Gaspar had was the day of their birth and the hospital they were born in, along with the name of the birth mother, his ex-girlfriend, who had already passed away. “All I know is a nurse adopted them,” Gaspar shared.
And when the couple checked back—the post had gotten tens of thousands of shares.
“I had no idea it was going to go this far, which is beautiful. I’m lost for words to be honest,” Gaspar told CBC News.
But it wasn’t just support from the community that Gaspar received.
A few days later, he got a phone call.
One of the people who had seen the post was a woman who had a longtime friend living in Edmonton—and that woman had adopted twin sons about two decades ago. That morning, the household received a phone call from the friend, saying “Hey there’s this Facebook post going around; apparently there’s this guy looking for his twins.”
Twenty-one-year-old Ramando Gaudette was about to leave the house for work when his mother waved him over, on the phone and completely baffled.
“I’m like, ‘Ok, this isn’t real, right?'” Gaudette said. “I was kind of skeptical at first, and then the more I read it and talked to my mom about it, she was like, ‘Yeah this is your actual dad.'”
“It was so surreal, it was very overwhelming.”
There was definitely a resemblance between himself and the man he saw in the photo.
“I was a little shocked,” said Gaudette. “I’m like, ‘Oh my goodness, that’s my dad. He looks awesome.'”
His brother Robert Gaudette was working out of town at the time, but he quickly got the news as well.
The two reached out on Facebook, and they arranged a three-way phone call with Gaspar.
“It was very emotional,” Gaudette said. By the end of the call, all three of them were crying.
Gaspar said he “couldn’t stop crying, just everything that went through my mind.”
“The first thing that I let them know was that I never gave up on them and they were always in my heart. It was too much. I was shaking, nerves were hitting high, my stomach was in knots.”
In an update on Facebook, Gaspar expressed his gratitude to the community and shared that he had finally found the boys. After the phone call, they planned an in-person reunion.
“This is a dream come true, it’s been over 20 years since I last seen them and without everyone’s shares this moment never would have happened.”
It didn’t stop at just the three of them either—the next day, the twins saw a bevy of Facebook friend requests—from half siblings and other family members they didn’t know they had.
“Before anything bad happens to me — because I am at the age when things show up, you know — I just wanted my kids to get to know each other,” said Gaspar.
“I don’t want to pull them away from nobody. I just want them to love each other and get to know each other. That’s what I want.”
“I think it’s a great way to try to reach out to somebody,” said Ramando Gaudette. “I mean, if you really love somebody and you want to find them, put up a post like that. For all you know, it could turn out like this.”