Depressed & unable to unpack new apartment for months, so 10 friends came together to help her out

July 2, 2018 3:48 pm Last Updated: July 2, 2018 3:48 pm

Depression can shut us down and make us not want to go out or do things that we’d ordinarily be more than willing to do.

During these times, people are often encouraged to reach out for support, but when feeling severely depressed, people sometimes don’t have the motivation to do anything—and that includes asking for help.

After her dad passed away, Sheila O’Malley was in that very position, yet a recent Twitter thread of hers shows that sometimes all you need to help you through a depressive episode is some good friends by your side.

Sheila O’Malley was severely depressed when she moved into a new apartment. She couldn’t bring herself to unpack.

After her dad’s passing, the rest of O’Malley’s year became a blur. She was so depressed she cried for 19 days straight and, when she moved apartments, she just couldn’t bring herself to unpack. Her stuff remained in boxes for months upon months.

During this time, her longtime friend David tried to help her, telling her that she was loved. O’Malley thanked him for the compliments but claimed that none of it mattered. That’s when he took matters into his own hands.

He reached out to a big group of friends telling them, “Sheila is struggling. She needs our help. Let’s all go over there and unpack her apartment for her. Bring food. Let’s make it fun.”

O’Malley had no idea that this was happening.

Then David e-mailed O’Malley to check if she would be home that Thursday night. When she replied “Yes,” David came over alongside 10 close friends. They brought plenty of supplies to clean with and food to chow down on.

O’Malley protested at first, telling the group that they couldn’t come in because she hadn’t unpacked. They ignored her pleas and instead got straight to work. Oh, how they worked!

They not only unpacked boxes, they put away over 1,000 books and hung up all of O’Malley’s pictures. They organized her closet, put away her clothes, washed her dishes, and so much more. Meanwhile, one friend got to work at making a taco station in the kitchen.

These friends worked tirelessly for four hours. By the end of it all, O’Malley felt like she finally had a home. She turned to her friend’s husband, a tough guy, and a man of few words. She wanted to say “Thank you” but the words just wouldn’t come out.

He turned back to her saying, “Listen, baby, what we did today was a barn-raising.”

O’Malley was extremely grateful for her friends’ help, although she admitted it could have easily backfired. She could’ve felt hurt or offended by so many people showing up without permission, but David knew her well enough to take that risk and it all ended up working out in the end.

The lesson here is that, if your friend is struggling with depression, don’t just give them advice. If they are willing to accept direct help, help them. If you’re not sure if they’d be willing, ask. Either way, you’ve got to be willing to take risks for them. After all, that’s what friends are for!