The Power of Changing Your Self Perception

If our identity is defined by what we do, then we can become the person who does those things
September 15, 2020 Updated: September 15, 2020

One of the most powerful switches I ever made was switching up my self perception, the identity I held for myself. I didn’t do it overnight, but I did do it in multiple areas.

I changed to being a non-smoker from a smoker—and once I did, I stopped thinking of smoking as something to do when I was stressed.

I went vegetarian (and later vegan) from being a meat-eater. It literally took meat off the menu for me, so that I didn’t even consider eating it.

I thought of myself as a marathoner, and later, as just someone who exercises regularly to stay fit and healthy. It meant that there was no question I was going to exercise, even if I fell out of it for a bit because of disruptions.

I became a meditator (and later, a Zen student). That means even if I stop meditating for a little bit, I’ll always come back to it.

I became a writer. Sure, before this change, I did write, but not daily (join my Create Daily Challenge in Sea Change if you want to change this one).

I became a minimalist. Actually, before I decided to call myself that, there wasn’t really anyone else who called themselves “minimalists.” This purposeful change in identity allowed me to free myself of clutter and enjoy a life of less.

There are dozens of other examples: as a father, unschooling parent, early riser, reader, teacher, speaker, entrepreneur, someone who takes meticulous care of his finances—every time I’ve made a major (or minor) life change that stuck, I changed my identity.

It’s more powerful than most people realize, and it’s doable.

Benefits of a New Identity

While it takes a little work, if you can shift how you see yourself, you’ll gain several benefits, including changing your behaviors.

Things that you have to debate yourself about, like waking up early or not eating a cheeseburger, cease to be a question. This saves you a lot of mental energy. It becomes much less of a daily struggle.

A more subtle change is a shift in long-standing beliefs about yourself. These are usually limiting beliefs such as, “You can’t do this, you’re no good at this, you aren’t someone who does this.”

If they’re not serving you, toss these beliefs aside.

With this approach, you begin to get a mindset that you can change anything. You’re not stuck in old ways, but someone who can grow and become new with possibility.

How to Change Your Identity

Unfortunately, changing yourself isn’t as easy as flipping a switch. It is, however, eminently doable.

It can be done a million different ways, but here are some points I’ve found to be important:

Do it consciously. We can change our identity without doing it intentionally, but I’ve found that it works much better if you do it intentionally. Doing it accidentally is like blindly stumbling upon something amazing. It’s not a sure thing. Instead, make it an intention to consciously shift your identity in this area.

Think about who you want to be. Do you want to be a person who writes every morning? A person who only eats plant-based foods? Someone who buys very little? Write it down: “I am a morning meditator.”

Intentionally start doing the actions. Set up visual reminders, phone reminders, whatever you need to do, but start doing the things that you would do if you’re this new version of yourself. If you’re a runner, go run.

BE the new version of you. Doing the actions is one thing, but you might be doing it while thinking that this is so not you. Instead, do the actions as if you were already that person. See yourself as the runner, the early riser, the vegan. Feel it in your being. Stand as this person.

Reinforce it by appreciating yourself. Each day, take a minute where you look back and see what you did. And appreciate this about yourself. See that you’re already shifting. “Yeah, this is happening, good job me!” We tend to focus on the bumps in the road rather than the progress we’re making.

When you falter, think about what this new version of you would do. Notice I said “when you falter,” not “if.” Even a Zen teacher misses a day of meditation sometimes. That’s a part of life. We don’t always do things “perfectly” but a Zen teacher wouldn’t miss a day of meditation and then just give up. She’d just sit the next day. A runner will get back into it even after a week of disruption (maybe due to visitors, illness, travel, injury, etc.). Don’t think of the disruption as proof that you’re not a runner, but instead approach the disruption as if you are a runner.

Don’t Become Rigid

It’s important to note that creating a new identity for yourself—seeing yourself in a new way—can also have some pitfalls. A big one is that you might create a fixed, rigid view of yourself.

For example, if you create a new identity of yourself that you’re an early riser, that could come with the rigidity that you’ll never stay up late or sleep in a little. And if your family has a gathering that’s later in the evening, you might just pass—not because it will affect anything important, but because of a rigid view of yourself.

There are lots of other possible examples: “If I always work hard, then I can’t take a rest;” “If I am an expert in my field, then I can’t ever admit I’m wrong.”

We don’t want our view of ourselves to limit us. Some limits are helpful, if they’re chosen consciously (i.e., a limit of eating processed foods). Other limits can be unhelpful if they don’t let us do what would be beneficial in a situation.

So while shifting identity can be helpful, I encourage you to not be too rigid. Think of your identity as fluid, something you can shift as needed, consciously.

Next Steps

I encourage you to pick one area at a time. Don’t try to shift everything about yourself. Choose one, and apply the steps above.

I am compassionate about myself.

I write every day.

I am a loving parent.

What would you like to try?

Leo Babauta is the author of six books, the writer of “Zen Habits,” a blog with over 2 million subscribers, and the creator of several online programs to help you master your habits. Visit