There’s a downside to self-development some of us are prone to: It can be very easy to start developing contempt for the people you’re passing in those areas you are focusing on.
You Have Only Begun
You may notice this contempt just as you are beginning to improve. If so, you have already forgotten that hardly a moment ago you were in the shoes of the people you find contemptible now.Perhaps you also didn’t use to know a barbell from a bellhop. Or you too used to watch TV for much of your waking (non-work) hours. You may have also run up a credit card balance last year that is still being paid off.
Pick Up Your Weight
When you dwell on your contempt for others, you’re just shifting your responsibility. Instead of dealing with the root of your own self-loathing, you project your self-loathing onto others. Instead of being humble and grateful for that small self-improvement that has been achieved, our competitive heart can cause us to immediately use it as a weapon. Instead of facing our own weakness, this heart can cause us to seek out weakness in others.For some of us, feelings of contempt are inevitable. Maybe they’re part of the path of overcoming our own insecurities and faults and failures. But it’s not inevitable that we should indulge in contempt.
If you are on the path of self-improvement, contempt will bring you low. Watch for it, notice it, remember its toxicity, and move past it. If you keep your eyes ahead (and remember where you started from), you won’t have much mental space for it.
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