When Your Mind Can’t Let Go

When fixation rules your thoughts, there’s a way to break free.

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Sometimes, your mind can get fixated on a thought or idea—and refuse to let go. For some people, this is ongoing, even if they don’t realize it.

How can you tell if your mind is holding onto something? Here are some signs:

• You won’t let go of an argument.
• You’re known for always wanting to be right.
• You replay conversations in your mind, arguing internally.
• You stew over an offense for a long time.
• You hold grudges.
• You’re frustrated because things aren’t the way you'd like them to be.
• People get tired of you complaining or being frustrated by the same things all the time.
• You regret things and wish you could go back and redo key moments of your life.
• You can’t forgive yourself for things you’ve done.

A mind that occasionally fixates is normal, but if you’re unable to let go, your mind becomes more and more rigid.