I once worked at a center where nearly every man was steered toward the same surgery, which sometimes left part of the tumor behind. That experience stayed with me. It reminded me that prostate cancer care should never feel like being on an assembly line.
6 Issues to Clarify With Your Prostate Specialist
You deserve more than one-size-fits-all answers. You deserve clear explanations. You deserve real options. Above all, you deserve a voice in every decision that affects your health, your longevity, and your quality of life.1. Understand Your Risk Group
Upon diagnosis, one of the first things you will hear is that your cancer falls into a “risk category.” Doctors assign this based on three things:- Prostate-Specific Antigen (PSA) Test: Determined by a blood test, levels are used to screen for or monitor the progress of prostate cancer
- Biopsy Results: Show how many “cores,” or tiny tissue samples, exhibit cancer and how aggressive it is
- Tumor Stage: Tumor, node, and metastasis staging, or TNM staging, is a system that describes whether the cancer is confined to the prostate, has spread to nearby tissue, or has spread beyond
I often tell patients, “You don’t need a doctor to know that having cancer in one out of 12 biopsy cores is very different from having it in all 12—even if both are classified in the same risk group.”
2. Make Sure Your Tests Were Done Correctly
Not all tests and reviews are equal. Before you make treatment decisions, ask your doctor:- Was my biopsy guided by MRI to target suspicious areas, or were the samples taken at random? Targeted biopsies are more accurate.
- Was my MRI reviewed by a radiologist who specializes in prostate imaging?
- Was my biopsy reviewed by a pathologist who reads prostate tissue every day?
3. Ask About Precision Tools
Risk groups are just the beginning. Today, we can dig deeper with tools such as:- Genomic tests on your biopsy, which reveal how likely your cancer is to spread or recur
- Advanced imaging such as prostate MRI or prostate-specific membrane antigen positron emission tomography (PET) scans, which show whether cancer is confined or has spread elsewhere
- Artificial intelligence-guided tools, which combine data from thousands of cases to predict risks and help guide treatment decisions
4. Review All of Your Treatment Options
Here is something many men do not realize: Sometimes the best option is not even mentioned, simply because the system does not offer it.- Low-Dose-Rate Brachytherapy: Placing tiny radioactive seeds inside the prostate in a single procedure
- Focal Therapy: Treating just the cancerous area rather than the whole prostate
- Active Surveillance: Structured monitoring with PSA, MRI, and an occasional biopsy, safe for many men with low-risk or favorable intermediate-risk disease.
5. Ask the Questions That Matter Most
Once you’ve heard your options, dig deeper. Here are the questions I encourage every man to ask his doctor or surgeon:- What are the pros and cons of each treatment option, including doing nothing, right now?
- What short- and long-term side effects should I expect?
- How will this affect my ability to work, exercise, or be intimate?
- What’s the realistic recovery time, not just the best case?
- How do my other conditions, such as diabetes, heart disease, or urinary issues, affect my risks?
- How many of these procedures have you personally performed in the past year?
- How long have you worked with your surgical or radiation team?
- Can I speak with patients who have undergone these treatments?
- Where can I find unbiased information?
6. Clarify Your Priorities Before You Choose
Before you sit down with your doctor, take time to reflect on what matters most:- Is your top priority preserving sexual function or urinary control?
- Do you want the option with the fastest recovery?
- Are you more anxious about surgery and anesthesia, or about the cancer itself?
- Who will be part of your support system during treatment and recovery?
After more than a decade of caring for men with prostate cancer, I have learned that the men who do best are not always the ones with the so-called best numbers on paper. They are the ones who spoke up, asked questions, and made sure that their care fit their lives.
Above all, remember that you are not just a case, or a chart, or a number. You are the most important man in the room.






