What Forgiveness Really Is

What Forgiveness Really Is
There’s no right way to find or live forgiveness; any path to and version of it will do.Toa Heftiba/Unsplash
Nancy Colier
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We often hear that forgiveness is an act of kindness for ourselves, that if forgiveness benefits the one we are forgiving, that’s an added benefit. And yet one of the obstacles we face in forgiving someone is that we do not wish them well and, in fact, we want them to suffer because of what they did.

The idea that the other person could feel better due to our forgiveness is challenging and precisely what we want to prevent.

Nancy Colier
Nancy Colier
Nancy Colier is a psychotherapist, interfaith minister, thought leader, public speaker, and the author of "Can't Stop Thinking: How to Let Go of Anxiety and Free Yourself from Obsessive Rumination,” “The Power of Off,” and the recently released “The Emotionally Exhausted Woman: Why You’re Depleted and How to Get What You Need” (November, 2022.)
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