How to Achieve What You Want

Each day is a step toward the wish we make and commit to fulfilling
By Donna Martelli
Donna Martelli
Donna Martelli
Donna Martelli, formerly a professional dancer with the Harkness Ballet of New York, served on the dance faculty at Butler University, Indianapolis, and is now also a certified personal trainer, and certified Pilates instructor in Indianapolis, IN. She conducts classes, seminars, and workshops in the U.S. and Europe. She is the author of “When God Says Drop It” and “Why the Dance,” available on Amazon and wherever books are sold.
September 6, 2021 Updated: September 6, 2021

What do you want? What if I told you there is a way to get it? Like most things that matter, it’s a process rather than a quick fix. It requires perseverance but you can apply this process to any area of your life. Whether your goal is better health, closer relationships, or financial freedom, these steps can help.

Clarify Your Wish

It starts first with your heartfelt and upright desire. What is it, and how much do you want it? You have to make that desire, or dream, your focal point. Think about what you need to do for your desire to manifest. Talk to people who are knowledgeable on the subject and will be able to help you. Do you need to take a course, develop a connection, save some money? Figure out the intermediate steps. The desire is yours, so you must claim it for yourself. Speak only success regarding your passion; never confess negative thoughts about it. Discard such ideas as “It is impossible,” or, “I’ll never get there.” Only energize positive expectations. Doing this will strengthen you.

Visualize achieving your wish. Physical pictures can often help more than mental images. Look for pictures that express what it will be like when you have what you desire and put them in a conspicuous location. Dream boards may seem cliche to some, but they are popular for a reason. If you want to lose weight, find an old picture of yourself and put it on your refrigerator. It’s a life principle that we move toward what we focus on. Don’t forget.

Strengthen Your Commitment

You must be committed to your wish. This requires fortitude because you will need to eliminate things that don’t fit your wish. Time devourers like social media and TV can erode your commitment. You will have to be determined to ward off these time thieves. Are there people in your life who discourage you and try to steamroll your determination? If so, guard yourself. Know their position and subtract it from their influence upon you. Only you can decide what you will do with this one life.

Now, consider what should you add. There are probably some areas of study and learning that you will need to undertake. You will need new influencers who can help you. Big changes may be required. Is your dream worth it? If it is, be relentless.

Change Your Actions

Now that you have committed to your dream, you will most likely have to make changes in your life. Your desire is a new thing, not another thing that you will add to your already over-extended life. Discover what changes you will have to make as you adjust everything in your life to line up with your wish. Let’s say you want to purchase a vacation home. What sacrifices would you need to make? Would you need to curtail things such as eating out, buying more clothes, or spending money on luxury items? Again, it’s your wish, and you will be the one to make these decisions.

Prepare Your Acceptance

Allow this good thing and all good things to happen to you, or you will naturally pull back from them. That may seem strange, but it’s true. There is always resistance to trying new things, especially good things. Sometimes we don’t feel worthy of our wishes. Acknowledge this interference and move past it. Don’t let anything trip you up. Take lightly the inevitable challenges like a bad day at work or friends who tell you what is wrong with your dream. Your daily actions will create your eventual reality.

It’s a beautiful life! When you fall, it’s OK; the important thing is to get back up and keep on going. I say “when” and not “if” because falls happen. You may be moving along and feeling great, and then suddenly it isn’t. You may feel at times like you have ruined your chances of ever having your dream fulfilled, but you haven’t. Falling isn’t the problem; it isn’t getting up after a fall. That is a failure. But not you, because you will get back up. You will win. You will grant your wish.

Donna Martelli
Donna Martelli
Donna Martelli, formerly a professional dancer with the Harkness Ballet of New York, served on the dance faculty at Butler University, Indianapolis, and is now also a certified personal trainer, and certified Pilates instructor in Indianapolis, IN. She conducts classes, seminars, and workshops in the U.S. and Europe. She is the author of “When God Says Drop It” and “Why the Dance,” available on Amazon and wherever books are sold.