Wanting Someone Else to Fulfill Our Lives

Wanting Someone Else to Fulfill Our Lives
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Leo Babauta
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I have a friend who is lonely, who has such a good heart, and desperately wants to find a partner who appreciates that goodness to share a life with.

We have all felt this, I’m guessing: this desire for a deep connection, this hope that another person will just get us and want an intimate relationship with us. There’s an idea that if we could just find this person and merge with them, we'd be fulfilled.

What if we tossed that idea out on its head? What if everything we need for happiness and fulfillment is actually within us?

The truth is that even those of us who have partners know that it's not all a honeymoon.
Leo Babauta
Leo Babauta
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Leo Babauta is the author of six books and the writer of Zen Habits, a blog with over 2 million subscribers. Visit ZenHabits.net