“Loving You” launched her into a whirlwind of movie-making: nine more films in five years, including “Where the Boys Are,” “Francis of Assisi,” “Come Fly with Me,” and another Elvis movie, “King Creole.” In these pictures she appeared with some of that era’s celebrated actors, men like Montgomery Clift, Warren Beatty, Karl Malden, Anthony Quinn, and George Hamilton. Dolores Hart was walking on a red carpet into the future.
Meanwhile, Hart had met California architect Don Robinson. After a long period of off-and-on dating, the couple became engaged.
In the Shadow of the Cross
In 1959, Hart was on Broadway as Jessica Poole in “The Pleasure of His Company,” a role that brought her an Emmy nomination. Burned out with the near-daily stage appearances, she sought the counsel of a friend, who recommended she spend some time in retreat at the Abbey of Regina Laudis in Bethlehem, Connecticut. Though reluctant to go, once there Hart found the rest and freedom from the world she’d sought. “It just felt peaceful,” she said years later. “I knew I was myself.”Over the next few years, the actress several times revisited the abbey. Once Hart asked the abbess whether she too might have a vocation, but was advised to return to Hollywood and get acting out of her system before considering the contemplative life. She did so with a sense of relief, yet the thought of becoming a Benedictine and joining the community nagged at her. “What bothered me, in the back of my mind, is I was thinking about going back to Regina Laudis.”

‘An Affair of the Heart’
In 1963, Hart’s spiritual debate over her vocation reached the breaking point. She finally decided that she was called to exchange the glitter and fame of Hollywood for the austerity and peace of the convent.Hart had become particularly close to actor Karl Malden and his family, often staying with the children when the Maldens were away. After making her decision, she drove to Malden’s house, gave her jewelry and dresses to his daughters, whom she had recently asked to be her bridesmaids, and told them she was leaving Hollywood on account of “an affair of the heart.”
Her toughest farewell was with her fiancé, Don Robinson. With the wedding only two weeks away, her unexpected announcement devastated him. She tried to explain, but as she later said, “How do you explain God?” Robinson would date other women, but he never married.
His story after their breakup also contains elements of an Arthurian romance. Robinson’s love for Hart never faded, and twice a year, at Christmas and Easter, he visited her in the monastery. By all accounts, the two of them remained companions of the heart until his death in 2011.
The year of 1963, as Hart later related, “was a terrifying time.”

Mother Dolores
Part of that terror rose from the abrupt shift in lifestyle and priorities that greeted her in the abbey. “The first night I felt like I had jumped off a 20-story building and landed flat on my back.” She was astounded to find that she had to sing with the others seven times daily and to share a bathroom with ten other nuns. She later described the novitiate as being “skinned alive.”Whatever our religious faith or beliefs, if we put ourselves into the shoes of Dolores Hart in 1963, we must marvel at the struggles that assailed her, at her character and strength, and at her commitment, which flies in the face of all modern sensibilities.

Mother Dolores Hart still resides at the Abbey of Regina Laudis, where she serves as Dean of Education. She is also a voting member of the Academy of Motion Picture Arts and Sciences.







