Pool Party Etiquette: How to Have Well-Mannered Fun in and Around the Water

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Summer’s almost here, so that means it’s time to dust off pool party manners to make sure everybody has a great time.

Safety First

The combination of water and splashing leads to slippery situations, making it important to literally tread carefully around the pool. If there are children present, enforce the rules of no running, no cannonballs, and no diving anywhere other than from the diving board. As you relax in the sunshine, keep an eye on others; if you notice someone struggling in the deep end, drop whatever you’re doing to offer assistance immediately.

Show Respect

Resist the urge to play DJ by playing your portable sound system loudly; many come to the pool to relax, and there’s no need to impose your musical preference on them. Consider who will be present when you choose your swimsuit; even if you look amazing in a daring bikini or, for guys, in a Speedo, it isn’t appropriate for a family-oriented affair. If in doubt, use the “What would Mom think?” test.

Swimming and Eating

If the pool has an adjacent gazebo with a grill, refrigerator, and casual dining area, use it to enjoy snacks and beverages, but make sure to avoid anything in glass bottles. Don’t eat or drink while seated on the edge of the pool or on a chaise longue and definitely not while in the pool. That being said, make sure to stay hydrated and that others do the same while swimming and spending time in the sunshine.

Be Aware

If there are children present, keep an eye on them, especially if they’re yours but even if they aren’t. A pool party isn’t day care, so don’t simply turn your kids loose to splash and play while you dive into a book. You don’t have to assume the duties of a lifeguard, but by exercising situational awareness, it’s more likely that you'll notice if a child needs help or needs to slow their roll.

Bring Your Own Towel

Using a thick, plush towel to dry off after swimming is a pleasure, so make sure to bring one for yourself and one for each of your family members in attendance. “Borrowing” someone else’s towel is rude, so don’t do it. The same goes for sunscreen and water—bring your own supplies, but be gracious and share with others who aren’t as well-prepared.