Dear June,
I read your article on families, and while impressed, you’re missing one crucial piece. These people for whatever reason are angry. You can’t have a conversation with them. They become defensive. I’ve been friends with someone for 40 years. Her husband is an atheist, which we’ve ignored all this time. He also drinks till he’s unbearable to be with. My feelings have changed toward my friend and now I cannot stand her husband. We talk via phone, but nothing important.