Répondez S'il Vous PlaîtOnly the bride is allowed to be late to the wedding. Being prompt, however, starts long before the ceremony. Send your RSVP ASAP—whether you’re going to attend or not. While that fairytale wedding may look effortless, it’s a major production, and your RSVP affects everything from seating plans to catering orders (please let the bride know if you have any dietary restrictions).
Dress CodeWhite, cream, and ivory are the bride’s colors; this is her day. There are plenty of other pastels to choose from if it’s a summer wedding or if dark colors wash you out. Silver, peach, coral, or light blue are all appropriate, but make sure that you’re not wearing the bridesmaids’ dress color. Stay away from gold, even pale shades, because it’s too attention-seeking, as are sequins, glittery metallic, and animal prints. Wearing all black to a daytime event that isn’t formal can also be seen as controversial, perhaps more so in the past than now.
Camera ClicksHaving everyone raise their phones to film the show is bad enough at a concert; it should never, ever happen at a wedding. The bride and groom have paid for a professional photographer for the day. Stay out of the photographer’s way; nothing ruins their work faster than your arm in the shot as they try to capture the bride as she comes down the aisle. This is particularly important during key moments such as the couple’s first kiss or the cutting of the cake.
Dining DignityGuests are often hungry by the time they get to the reception; the bride and groom are, too, so you can wait to go up to them to offer your hearty congratulations. Allow them 20 minutes to rest and enjoy their meal; they’ll most likely come around and greet you afterward.
Reception ResponsibilitiesWhile it may be romantic to dance with your spouse to your “first song” after being inspired by the romance of the day, don’t request songs from the DJ or band. The song list has already been selected by the happy couple, so allow them to control what comes through the speakers.
Likewise, unexpected wedding toasts make everyone nervous because they have a tendency to be cringe-worthy. If the couple passes the microphone around, go for it, but keep it short.
Do have a great time. Don’t let the bride and groom be the only ones on the dance floor; after all, a wedding is a party.