How Can I Illustrate Our Financial Position to a Spouse Who Shows Little Interest?

Many couples divide financial responsibilities, but regular financial check-ins can help prevent knowledge gaps later in life.
How Can I Illustrate Our Financial Position to a Spouse Who Shows Little Interest?
From net worth statements to mind maps, visual tools can help couples build a shared understanding of their finances. Andrey_Popov/Shutterstock
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Reader question: My spouse has little interest in our financial position. As we age, this concerns me. I try to share some basic information (income, spending, account balances, debt, and so on) each month but rarely get a response. I think graphs or charts might be of more interest to her than a bunch of numbers. What recommendations would you have for illustrating our financial position so that I am not the only person aware of how we are situated? Thanks!
Answer: Your situation is pretty common. Most couples I know develop a division of labor over time, where one person is in charge of financial matters and the other person is less involved. That’s definitely the case for my husband and me. He’s in charge of paying all the monthly bills and preparing our tax returns, but the financial planning and investment decisions are up to me. This type of arrangement might work well for a long time, but can become less sustainable with age, particularly if the “finance person” in the relationship dies or develops a major health issue.

Online Tools and Mind Maps

Illustrating your financial situation with charts and graphs is a great idea that might help your spouse become a little more involved. Morningstar’s  Portfolio X-Ray  tool includes a variety of images that help illustrate your financial situation. Websites for most major brokerage firms also include some visual tools. Schwab, for example, offers a Portfolio Checkup and a bar graph illustrating your account’s monthly income from dividends and interest. Vanguard has a Portfolio Watch tool and a variety of performance illustrations, tools, and calculators.