Get a Grip: How to Give a Perfect Handshake

A confident, friendly handshake gives a great first impression. G-Stock Studio/Shutterstock

There are several examples of things universally understood, regardless of language barriers. They include smiles, frowns, and handshakes.

Step Up

Unless there are health issues keeping you seated, stand up and confidently approach the other person to shake hands. Make eye contact, smile, firmly grasp their proffered hand, and pump it up and down twice before releasing it. If appropriate, tell them it’s nice to meet them, before stepping away to let them get back to whatever they were doing.

Don’t interrupt anyone deep in conversation or otherwise clearly occupied, such as a hostess putting last-minute touches on a menu item. There are no circumstances under which it’s appropriate to try and force a handshake.

Don’t Crush Them

A firm, dry handshake conveys power, respect, and confidence. But don’t try to show off and overdo it, as that’s off-putting to the other person. A firm yet not squeezing grip is appropriate for most, though dial it down if you’re shaking hands with an elderly or frail person. But be aware that a limp handshake is as bad as being overly firm.