Dear June,
I don’t think I am good at setting boundaries for myself. Not having boundaries has resulted in problems like over-scheduling, having too many relationships I can’t do justice to, and taking on more jobs than I can actually do because I can’t say no. I like the idea of having firmer boundaries because I think it prevents a lot of problems, both for myself and others. But I worry that when I start setting stricter boundaries, I will come off as cold or uncaring when I say no. How do I know when I’m setting boundaries out of selfishness versus practicality and good forethought?
