A viral photo shows a six-year-old boy pulling money out of his wallet to pay for a meal he shared with his mom.
Nikkole Paulun, the mother, shared the picture and explained how she is trying to teach her son how to properly respect woman by having him take her out to dinner once a month.
“He opens doors for me, pulls out my chair, talks about his day & asks me how mine was, pays the bill with money he earned by doing chores, and even tips the waiter/waitress,” she said.
“By doing this I am teaching him how to treat a lady & how to take her on a proper date. How to show that he respects the woman he loves (right now that would be mommy). We put our phone and iPad away (except to take this photo) and sit and talk to each other about our days, things we want to do, etc. I’m teaching him proper table manners and that it’s rude to sit on your phone on a date with your mom or with anyone else. He learns the value of money and how to manage it. He learns how to do math as we add up what we want and make sure we have 15% of it to leave for a tip.”
Paulun acknowledged that her son is young, but said “it’s never too early to teach your child how to properly respect others, especially women.”
“As a woman who has been abused & treated like crap in the past, it’s extremely important to me that I teach my son how to show respect. Too many men these days have no idea how to treat women or how to take them on a nice date. It’s nice to know my son won’t be one of them,” she added.
The photo has gone viral, with millions of likes and shares.
Many of the comments were supportive.
“She’s doing a great job! She is teaching him how to be a man,” said one.
“Way to go mom.!! This is something I will do with my future children and if it’s a daughter I will make her dad take her on a date every month and pay and show her all that respect that she deserves,” said another.
Paulun did receive some criticism, with one female commentor saying:
“While this is a lovely idea, I don’t like the idea that you make your son spend money he earns by doing chores on taking you for dinner. I get the idea behind it, but it’s a little unfair to suggest that unless you make him do that then he’ll turn out to be a bad guy when it comes to women. He may grow to resent the fact that you expect him to take you to dinner with the money he earns, which is an actual problem in relationships now.”
But Paulun responded, saying her son enjoys doing it and that it makes him happy.
“I would never force him to do something he didn’t want to. He prefers to spend his money doing something special with me than to spend money on toys. He already has his game station, toys, and things he wants. He’s very thrifty with his money and refuses to spend on things he thinks he won’t really use,” she said.
“I give him extra money to be able to do this lol having a special day for just us two is something he truly cherishes and looks forward to, as well as using his money to pay the bill.”