“A surgery isn’t birth, my dear,” was the outrageous, mocking comment that began an online frenzy.
Welcoming a baby into the world is a pretty big deal. The birthing process, however it happens (and oh boy, are there bound to be contingencies!), is something that most parents want to celebrate as an expression of empowerment and wonder. So, it stands to reason that a lot of parents also want to take photos.
Some opt for hiring a birth photographer. Yes, these angels really do exist, and what a wonderful idea! Both parents can focus their attention on the mammoth task at hand without having to fiddle with shutter speed, white balance, and light gauges while resting assured that the amazing experience will still be caught on camera.
You might, therefore, be forgiven for thinking that hiring a birth photographer meant hiring a person who was willing to photograph the birth of your baby. Not in this case. A mom-to-be was refused service by a birth photographer for one astounding reason.
She was going to have a cesarean section.
It all began when the excited, expectant mom started a conversation with a potential photographer. But within minutes, her focus was diverted from her imminent bundle of joy to the shocking tirade on the screen of her mobile phone.
In a series of messages condemning the woman for having a cesarean section, the photographer, who remains anonymous, mom-shamed her potential client to the highest degree. The outraged mom quickly got her own back, however; she posted the entire conversation on mothering collective Sanctimommy‘s Facebook group.
She amassed a huge amount of support and her screenshots went viral.
#tmw your #birthphotographer dumps you for having a csection.
The mom initially attempted to dismiss the unexpected refusal calmly. “I didn’t ‘opt’ for anything,” she replied, “but alright. I had no idea birth photographers discriminated people for how they birth their babies,” she added, “but that’s good to know. Have a nice day.”
Unfortunately, that was not the end of it. The fired-up photographer had more to say. “You aren’t giving birth,” she wrote back, harshly. “You are having a surgery to remove your baby from your abdomen. That is not birth, no matter how you swing it,” she scoffed, “and I for one don’t want to be there to take pictures of it.”
As if that wasn’t enough, the photographer added a second blow. “If you decide to give motherhood a go from the get and have an actual birth,” she wrote, “let me know and we can schedule your session.” But we very much doubt the offended mom would consider calling her in the future, especially after the photographer’s final sign-off.
“This motherhood job is hard,” the photographer concluded. “If I were you, I would think twice about starting such a job by cutting corners so early in the game.”
Likening a cesarean section to “cutting corners” was the final straw for the expectant mom. She had only wanted a photographer, not an epic battle of opinions. At this juncture, she posted the entire conversation online.
According to the Daily Mail, it remains unclear where the pair were based, but social media sent the mom’s triumphant exposé hurtling to the four corners of the globe. Readers responded in droves.
“Cutting corners?” one furious parent wrote on Facebook. “I wish I could have birthed my baby and been at Target the next day like some of the other mothers I see.”
“But no,” she continued, “I had my baby surgically removed and then I couldn’t get out of bed for 2 weeks because of complications […] Yeah, I took the ‘easy way out.'”
Without doubt, an army of angry moms is a force to be reckoned with. We expect that justice won out in the end and this mom found a brand-new, supportive birth photographer in no time!