Married to a Complete Jerk

January 29, 2014 Updated: April 24, 2016

Dear Kathy,

My husband is a complete jerk. He acts like he’s this huge help around the house and with the kids, but the truth is that I do practically everything.

He is unappreciative and downright nasty. I can’t stand it anymore. I want him gone. Yesterday. I want him to pack his things and get out.

He treats me like I’m the world’s biggest bitch and it makes me feel like slugging him because he’s the one who’s impossible to live with. He goes around telling people this garbage, too. He outright lies to make himself look good. I am totally fed up with his crap!


Dear Brenda,

     I hear your pain and I’m sorry that you are going through such a frustrating season in your marriage. I encourage you to give counseling a try before throwing in the towel. Even if things don’t work out, at least you will have the personal satisfaction of knowing that you tried your best.

     I suggest that you seek out an EFT certified therapist Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) is a highly effective form of  therapy which helps couples identify the relational dynamic between them, rather than viewing each other as the enemy.

     I wish you the very best regarding your situation. Please let me know how things work out.