Am I A Bad Person??

Am I A Bad Person??
Katherine Smith
2/1/2014
Updated:
4/24/2016

Dear Kathy,

I have a friend who has been complaining about her husband for the past 15 years. I started tuning her out over a decade ago. I thought she was just venting and I got tired of hearing about it.

She recently told me that he belittles her and bullies her to the point that she is afraid to be in her own home. I never knew it was that bad. I feel terrible that I haven’t been a better, more responsive friend. Am I a bad person??

“Patrice”

Dear Patrice,

You clearly care about your friend’s predicament and feel remorseful for not doing more to help her cope with her painful home life. You are a good person who has made a mistake. Welcome to the human race. Forgive yourself and move forward. Your friend needs you now more than ever - be there for her to the best of your ability. Today is a new day.

All my best,

Kathy

is a licensed marriage and family therapist as well as a gifted divorce mediator in NYC. She is a former high school English teacher and college counselor with a passion for enhancing the lives of others. Additionally, Katherine has extensive training in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) for couples, family systems, and group therapy. Readers can contact her at [email protected].
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