Am I A Bad Person??

February 1, 2014 Updated: April 24, 2016

Dear Kathy,

I have a friend who has been complaining about her husband for the past 15 years. I started tuning her out over a decade ago. I thought she was just venting and I got tired of hearing about it.

She recently told me that he belittles her and bullies her to the point that she is afraid to be in her own home. I never knew it was that bad. I feel terrible that I haven’t been a better, more responsive friend. Am I a bad person??


Dear Patrice,

You clearly care about your friend’s predicament and feel remorseful for not doing more to help her cope with her painful home life. You are a good person who has made a mistake. Welcome to the human race. Forgive yourself and move forward. Your friend needs you now more than ever – be there for her to the best of your ability. Today is a new day.

All my best,