These days, the pressure to conform is stronger than ever thanks in part to social media trends that no one wants to be left out of. More and more people watch the same things and follow the same trends in part because of their insecurities about being left behind.
There are still bold individualists who stand out from the crowd. These people have something different inside that you can see from a mile away.
Are you a strong personality? Do you exhibit characteristics that make other people take notice and respect you? Today, we’ll look at six ways of spotting someone who makes themselves seen and heard in life and in work.
1. You don’t put up with excuses
Strong people are the way they are because they rely on themselves. They don’t give themselves the easy way out, blaming traffic or the weather when they are late. They assume the consequences of their actions, and when they are wrong, they just admit it straight away. They’re not afraid of taking responsibility for their actions.
The flip side of this is that they expect others, friends, partners, co-workers, and employees to do the same. When someone tells a strong personality, “sorry, I lost track of time,” they shouldn’t expect to get much sympathy.
2. You don’t need validation from other people
If you’re a person who’s comfortable in their skin and their shoes, don’t be surprised if others give you space. Your unapologetic personality can be intimidating for them. What can be especially challenging for other personalities is that you literally don’t need them or their approval in order to live your life.
While many people are constantly seeking validation from others, which they hope will make them feel better about their choices and lifestyle, you just don’t need or want others to tell you that what you’re doing is okay. You have your own compass inside you.
3. You’re a good listener
In a world full of constant chatter, there’s really nothing better than someone who really knows how to close their mouth and listen to others. So many people listen to respond, to give you their two cents or to feel like they can solve your problems for you.
But a strong personality listens to understand. They want to hear what you have to say and they don’t need to make the conversation about them. Being a confident, self-sufficient person makes you the best possible listener as you can just focus on the other person and what they’re trying to say.
4. You don’t give away everything to everyone
If you’re a capable, self-confident person, others might be a little surprised at how independent you are. Since you don’t seek your sense of self in others, finding it inside instead, you might be quite private and only share certain things with certain people.
You don’t let all your acquaintances into the most intimate places in your life, having a healthy sense of separation between work and life, and only share important information with the most important people in your friend circle.
5. You don’t need to be the center of attention in person or online
Many people are always on social media, posting pictures and videos they hope will get them the attention of friends and family, but a strong-minded individual won’t do this. Strong people don’t need to stare at the screen, desperately waiting for likes, comments, and shares.
For strong people, if they are in the spotlight, that’s fine. If not, no problem. They just don’t need to have all eyes on them.
6. You only speak when you have something important to say
What insecure people don’t understand is that the more they talk, the less other people listen. If you’re a strong person, you know that you’ll be able to get your point across better if you choose your words carefully. By waiting until you really have something to contribute, you’ll make a good impression on your colleagues and friends.
They know that you wouldn’t be getting involved in the discussion unless you had something important on your mind!