Sometimes the best way of finding out something about yourself is to look at what you do when you’re not thinking about it. Today, we’ll look at one of the first actions we do as humans, one that is so basic it can reveal the personality underneath our exterior facade.
So close your eyes, clear your mind, and make a fist with your dominant hand. Now open your eyes and look at your fist. What do you see? This may just tell you something about yourself you didn’t know!
There are three main ways that we make fists as adults. The first type will present with the thumb over the fingers, pointing upward. The second type will show the thumb running across the fingers. Finally, the third will show the thumb tucked underneath the fingers.
So which one do you have and what does it say about you?
Fist Type One: Strong
The first fist type is noticeable because the thumb is outside of the tucked fingers and pointing upwards. Looking at these two features helps understand the Type One’s personality’s traits; this is a person who is strong and driven. They don’t just hold their thumb up straight; they stand up proudly for themselves and for others.
This personality doesn’t desire dominance over others; rather, it seeks to lead others. People with Type One fists will naturally rise to the top and be recognized by others for their strength of character.
They can harness their strong will to lead and to protect their teams, their friends, and their family. If your romantic partner has this fist, it’s likely that they take on the role of leader and defender in the relationship.
The challenge for this personality is to bring everyone along with them and make sure that they come across as leading by example rather than dictating or being bossy.
Fist Type Two: Honest
So you make a fist by tucking in your fingers and putting your thumb in a straight line across them. By putting your thumb out there so visibly, you’ve already told others a lot about you. In fact, honesty is your main character trait and the one that really defines you as a person.
You put yourself out there in lots of different ways, approaching other people without any nervousness or apprehension and letting those closest to you at work and at home know exactly what you think.
Showing your thumb like this doesn’t mean that you’re a showoff. It just demonstrates that you don’t have anything to hide from other people. However, your honesty can sometimes provoke controversy, especially when people aren’t ready to hear the unvarnished truth about themselves!
The best thing about you is that you accept yourself! This gives you the strength to be proud of who you are and open to others.
Fist Type Three: Reflective
The last fist type is the one that we do throughout our first months in the world, what pediatricians often called TIF (thumb in fist). However, this doesn’t mean this personality type is childish or even childlike. Just as for Types 1 and 2 having the thumb outside the fist indicating their fundamental extroversion and outward-focused personalities, tucking the thumb inside the fist says a lot about Type 3.
This personality is at its root, an introvert. They find meaning within themselves first and foremost and spend a lot of time observing themselves and the world around them and reflecting.
Because Type 3 personalities are calm and meditative, they sometimes come across to new people as shy and timid. But they’re not afraid of themselves or anyone else; rather, it takes them time to adjust their internal reality to the outside world.
When Type 3 personalities do get their turn to speak, others are usually impressed as they reveal unusual insights that are the products of long hours of thinking. They can see things others might miss, and this makes them useful on a team.
While this personality type has a lot going for it, reflective people can sometimes fall into the trap of thinking instead of doing. It’s difficult for them to act until they feel like they have all the information they need.
Now you know which type you are. Take a second to try this out with your partner, your friends, and co-workers and see which types they are. Regardless of your type, remember that it takes a village. Each type has something unique to contribute!