Commentary
Some analysts who study Generation Z say these young people are misunderstood and that we aren’t communicating with them effectively. So how can people older than Gen Z attempt to connect with this group, most of whom were born in the 21st century?
A phrase often repeated during the hippie movement was, “Don’t trust anyone over 30.” Today, many Gen Z individuals either feel misunderstood or have difficulty trusting older generations. This isn’t new—each generation has often struggled to relate to those significantly older than themselves.
How can we better connect with a generation raised on rapidly evolving technology and constantly distracted by a digital panorama that often replaces real-life experiences? I spend a fair amount of time around Gen Z and offer a few suggestions that may help bridge the gap.
First, merely feeling sorry for a generation affected by COVID-19 and fast-paced technology won’t help communication. People of all ages had to adapt to these realities. Understanding Gen Z requires empathy—but also some tough love. It’s more beneficial to guide them toward a positive path than to get swept up in the exhausting cycle of instant gratification.
Second, if you see a Gen Z individual reading or writing with print material instead of being glued to a screen, acknowledge and praise this refreshing break from digital overload. Encourage the use of books, dictionaries, and encyclopedias to foster critical thinking. Studies show that excessive screen time can negatively impact the senses and brain function. It also takes time away from healthy habits like exercise, nutrition, rest, and outdoor activities.
Third, if you have a chance to mentor a Gen Z individual, emphasize the importance of a strong work ethic as they transition from school to the workforce. In the real world, the trend of “quiet quitting”—doing the bare minimum—won’t be sustainable. Likewise, wearing pajamas all day reflects a lack of ambition and self-respect. Workers should be dependable and resist the urge to constantly check their phones. Progress comes through experience, merit, and patience—there are no shortcuts to building character.
Fourth, ask meaningful questions about their purpose in life, as commentator Charlie Kirk often did. Do they start the day with a sense of purpose? Have they thought about a career that brings fulfillment? Are they discovering unique interests and skills? These questions can open the door to conversations that help older generations better understand Gen Z’s aspirations.
Fifth, I’ve observed a recurring pattern among Gen Z. A speaker may give a motivational talk to a Gen Z audience about discipline and character, and the audience appears intrigued. Yet once the talk ends, many return immediately to scrolling through social media. One can only hope that some of the positive messages stick.
Sixth, strive to have real, in-person conversations with Gen Z individuals—free from technological distractions. This allows for genuine communication and eye contact, helping to improve attention span and real-life awareness. Like all human generations, Gen Z has flaws, but the challenges of school and work can nurture growth. It’s important to highlight the positive while reinforcing personal responsibility and self-governance.
Seventh, older generations can also learn from Gen Z. Knowledge sharing goes both ways. We can improve our tech skills, which are increasingly essential, while they can benefit from wisdom and experience. Many Gen Z individuals seek meaningful social interaction and spiritual insight. A deeper spiritual awareness can guide them toward truth and an appreciation for uplifting American traditions.
Eighth, if we want to reach Gen Z, we shouldn’t write them off as hopeless. While it can be tempting to shake them and say, “Wake up and smell the coffee,” we must remember that they’re here to stay. Many are eager to learn and contribute when we take time to engage with them. Like all people, they seek meaning in their lives and can thrive with thoughtful guidance as they strive to become the best version of themselves.
