Bride and Groom Ask Wedding Guest for Better Wedding Gift

By Giuliana Manca
Giuliana Manca
Giuliana Manca
May 12, 2016 Updated: May 12, 2016

One wedding guest’s gift was considered insufficient by the bride and groom. On a British forum website—Mumsnet—a user named Puzzledandpissedoff shared an unusual email she received from a newly wedded couple whose wedding she recently attended. 

“Utterly gobsmacked” is how the woman described her reaction to the peculiar email. The woman attended an ex-colleague’s wedding, where the bride and groom requested cash gifts. Puzzledandpissedoff sent what she believed to be a “pretty decent” check of 100 British pounds (around $145). 

On May 5, the wedding guest received an email from the couple “which opened with a few comments about how glad they were to see everybody and how generous they’d all been.”

It followed with a peculiar request.

“‘We were surprised,'” quoted Puzzledandpissedoff, “‘that your contribution didn’t seem to match the warmth of your good wishes on our big day. In view of your own position, if you wanted to send any adjustment it would be thankfully received.'”

The Mumsnet user noted “‘your own position'” could be in reference a “recent inheritance” the wedding guest received. Puzzledandpissedoff notes that the bride was an ex-colleague, “not a close friend or relative.”

The May 6 post concluded with a plea for advice, noting that the forum member had “never come across anything like this before.”

The story has since gone viral, receiving over 1,000 replies in less than 48 hours. Many of the replies suggested canceling the initial check, if it had not already been cashed. Although, in a later post, the guest confirmed it had been cashed quite quickly. 

Puzzledandpissedoff replied to the email on May 6, informing Mumsnet that she simply wrote “I assume this was some sort of a mistake?”

The bride has not yet responded. What do you think of the bride and groom’s email? Tell us in the comments below. 

Giuliana Manca
Giuliana Manca