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When I quit my full-time publishing job to stay home with my children, I was made to feel like a traitor to womankind. My decision was somehow “proof” that women couldn’t be counted on in the business world, at least not when they became moms. I fell into the guilt trap. Though I was not ready to give up the idea that I could “have it all,” I knew I couldn’t have it all at once. Yes, this choice would sideline my career for a time, but I had faith that it wouldn’t end it.
Like my religion and my politics, I often choose not to broadcast my status as a stay-at-home-mom until after people have had time to make up their mind about me. I wait until they have decided whether I am interesting or competent enough to enter their circle. Once they’re hooked and we establish a relationship, being a stay-at-home-mom is seen as just another facet of me, not the thing that defines me.
Staying Home Made Me a Better Mom