Aggressive, hostile-dominant people may win brass rings in life, but at a cost, according to a series of studies by psychologist Timothy W. Smith and his colleagues at the University of Utah. Those who use the hostile-dominant personality style seem to be more vulnerable to cardiovascular disease than others. They also win less social support.
But there is good news. People can change. Frank Underwood, the ruthless politician of “House of Cards” probably cannot, but real people can.
Smith is a distinguished professor of psychology. He said it’s not easy for aggressively competitive people to understand that they are at fault. “People like that often view other people as the source of the problem.”
The first step is often the most challenging, and comes when other people resist the hostile behavior, according to Smith. A manager may accumulate so many complaints from subordinates about his behavior towards subordinates that he or she is in danger of being fired.
“It’s not a style that wears well with other people,” said Smith. “But in some relationships or families someone finally says, ’this has to change,'” and the hostile-dominant person starts seeing his or her behavior more clearly.
Changing takes time. But if a hostile-dominant person is able to make the shift to warm-dominance, being friendly and caring while still taking the lead, both his relationships, his status, and his heart may be better.
There are psychosocial predictors of heart disease, said Smith. Having higher status, feeling a sense of personal power, is good for health. It reduces cardiovascular risk, according to Smith. But there is a nuance.
“I came across studies that found that having status because people freely grant it to you out of respect is protective. Aggressively demanding, that kind of blustering and aggressively posturing—my work suggests that it comes at the cost of your relationships,” he said.
“The lesson is work hard and let it happen, instead of work hard and make it happen,” he said.
