Many things change when a family welcomes a baby into their home, and one mother recently spoke about her experience with one shift most noticeable to a new mother.
“Soon after my son was born I felt like I became invisible,” Anastasia Aligiannis wrote on her Facebook page.
Aligiannis noticed how before her son was born friends and family asked about her well-being, but once she had her little boy they seemed to shift their concerns to the newborn.
In order to prove her feeling invisible wasn’t something she imagined in her head, the mother of two performed a little experiment. Every day she wore one earring and kept track of who noticed. It took seven months before someone said something.
The mother of two started to feel invisible after the birth of her second child.
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Aligiannis paid close attention to the everyday conversations she had with friends and family. Even those that she had on the phone revolved around her children—rarely did anyone ask about her.
7 months worth of social interactions, and no one ever looked me square in the face and noticed. It sort of cemented to me that as mum of then 2 children under 2 who was always out and about, who “just stayed at home” or “didn’t work” I had just about become invisible; not just to society (who may not notice or be curious why just 1 earring), but to my family, to my friends and really maybe if I am truly honest even to myself.
While many commenters were quick to shun her experiment or suggest that maybe no one noticed her earring because “some people wear only one earring as a choice,” others agreed with her.
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And to those who agreed with her or felt the same way, Aligiannis shared a message of hope.
“You are so important, and are probably the cog that keeps everything running smoothly,” she wrote.
“Keep up the good work, and if no one else says it to you this week know that you are invaluable in the work you do and your sacrifices do not go unnoticed.”