Be honest with yourself—how many times do you do something with the intentions of sharing it on social media for all your followers to see? When it comes to showing our affection for another, it can seem like some people “do it for the ‘gram.”
A recent post on Facebook by Amy Betters-Midtvedt serves as a wake-up call for anyone who may be tricked into believing that their significant other’s epic promposal or other Instagram-worthy sign of affection is a sign of “true love” in their relationship.
Amy and her husband Todd have been together for 25 years, and their life may not be what you call ‘picture perfect.’
Amy shared a photo of her husband coming to her rescue when she was at the grocery store with a cart full of food and couldn’t find her wallet. She said of the photo, “This is what your knight in shining armor looks like when you are in your 40s.”
She continued by explaining to “young ones” that acts of love are usually not something you plan out perfectly in order to share on social media. It’s typically far less glamorous than one may expect.
“Love looks like someone washing the dishes while his wife catches up on This is Us while plopped on the couch not helping at all,” she wrote. “Love looks like a super patient dad doing the 5 year old’s homework with him every morning so I can get to work on time.”
Just because their love for each other isn’t as ‘Instagram worthy’ doesn’t mean they’re any less in love.
Amy said she is perfectly fine with how she and her husband show their love for one another—in fact she knew long before she married Todd that this is the kind of love she’d get to experience.
She explained how Todd, who was her boyfriend at the time, would carry her flower backpack all around their college campus—or he’d stay at a bar a little longer than he would have liked because she was having the time of her life with her friends.
That is true love.
Amy urges everyone to watch how your significant other treats you when there is no audience.
The mother of five summed up her post with wise words of advice to young people and urged them to pay attention to how their significant other shows their affection when no one else is watching.
Do not be fooled by big, showy promposals and giant cards with candy bars glued to them with some cute saying or by your name spelled in pepperoni by a boy who’s asking you to homecoming. That isn’t the stuff that lasts and let’s be honest…moms are totally helping them with those things. Watch how he treats you when Instagram isn’t looking. That is where the signs are.