In 2011 Tiffany Thornton married the love of her life, Chris Carney. Eventually the couple had two children together, Kenneth and Bentley. Tragically, on December 4, 2015, Carney was killed in a car accident.
Thornton was devastated, and one way she grieved the loss of her husband and children’s father was sharing images of him and uplifting captions on her Instagram. Each time she shared an image her followers would leave equally uplifting comments, and her heart began to heal.
Thornton married Carney in 2011, but in 2015 he was killed in a car accident.
I never would have thought a year ago that my life would be where it is now. When I hear people say "The Lord's timing is perfect" it makes me think of all the times I've been impatiently waiting on Him to move in my life, never thinking it meant He would move quicker than I anticipated. It is true though: the Lord's timing is so different than ours and I'm grateful for it. I've always been very independent and I figured I would be single for a really long time. I didn't need someone to pay my bills or provide a home for us or parent my children. God had already provided all of that. I mean, heck I even learned to kill wasps on my own this year. I couldn't have imagined being in love and engaged to be married merely a year and a half after losing Chris but now that I am, I can't imagine it not being this way. God knows exactly what the boys and I need and EXACTLY when we needed it. And I know that Chris must be smiling down from Heaven as my life is changing and his boys are growing into beautiful young believers in Christ. I'm absolutely sure he's part of the gift of new love that God sent to us in Josiah. Jo and Chris are pretty much complete opposites, which is a good thing because I don't look at Jo and feel reminded of Chris. The few similarities are beautiful ones: a deep love for the boys, a tender heart and a passion for a relationship with the Lord. What more could someone want for their children and wife than to be loved and provided for by a Godly man who is confident enough to still allow their past love to remain a big part of their lives? Christopher Carney will always be missed and will be talked about in our home so that our boys never forget him. One day, the boys will learn about why he passed away and Jo and I will be there to explain it with loving hearts and a lesson from the Lord. Their Daddy will never be forgotten. And they will always know just how loved they are, by SO MANY people. And my heart will continue to grow in this gift of love. Never forgetting my first love and somehow still having room for a new one.
Then something changed. She found room in her heart to love again. She felt like the romance had been arranged for her by a higher plan.
On October 7, 2017, less than two years after Carney was killed, Thornton remarried.
In a post she simply captioned, “Best day of my life 10/7/17,” Thornton received more than well wishes for her and her second husband, Josiah Capaci. She also received comments questioning her love for Carney.
When Thornton announced her recent marriage, some took offense.
When the mother of two shared a moment from the best day of her life, she didn’t expect to be met with criticism. However, a short while after uploading a photo announcing her marriage, she shared another photo.
This time the caption was much longer, and it addressed how she was able to love someone so soon after Carney’s death.
“There is no timeline for grief or for when God moves in your life in undeniable ways,” she wrote.
In a second photo she explained how she was able to love Carney and Capaci.
This. This is love. That all encompassing, enduring, accepting, near perfect love. The kind that trumps my need to snap back at people who have the audacity to comment on my Instagram about whether I loved my first husband or not. But let me take a moment to explain something to you. There is no timeline for grief or for when God moves in your life in undeniable ways. There are a lot of people who think it isn't good to be transparent on social media but I say forget that. I'm going to be open and honest because God wants me to. It's part of my testimony and it needs to be said. I was a mess yesterday during our wedding ceremony. So many emotions flooded my heart as I walked down those balcony steps to the arms of my gift from God. I thought of Chris watching us and knowing he would have loved the choice I made, for me and for the boys. I thought of Chris's amazing parents sitting front row and how much of a blessing they have been and will forever be in our lives. How happy they are for the boys and I and how much they already love Josiah. I am so completely humbled by the love I receive from this man. Jo came along EXACTLY when God knew I needed him. It wasn't my choice to fall in love so quickly after chris passed but I was growing so comfortable with being alone that it was becoming unhealthy. Looking back now I think God saw that if I went too long without love that it would become increasingly difficult for me to submit to the authority of a husband after being set in my own ways. When I say "Jo is the greatest thing that's ever happened to me" that in no way indicates that I didn't love my first husband with all that I had. How dare any one of you judge me and say that on a social platform. It doesn't make you any better of a person to cast judgment on others and sit in the seat of mockers. I will always love chris and jo knows that. And I will always love Jo. The beautiful thing about love is that it multiplies as new blessings come into your life. I don't have to share one bucket of love with the special people in my life. Each one has their own bucket. Get it? Isn't that amazing?? God's timing is not our own. And I praise Him for that. You should too.
She wrote how though many people seemed to think she moved on from Carney, but she had not. During her ceremony she was a mess.
Not only was she full of emotion because she was about to marry her “gift from God,” but she knew that Carney was watching—and she knew that he would have been proud of the decision she was making.
Thornton continued by commenting how she never planned to “fall in love so quickly” after Carney died, but life happened and Capaci appeared, exactly at the right time.
She made it clear that her love for her new husband does not diminish her first love.
Although Thornton didn’t owe her followers an explanation, she was able to eloquently explain how she is able to love both her husband who passed away, and her new husband.
“The beautiful thing about love is that it multiplies as new blessings come into your life,” Thornton wrote on Instagram. “I don’t have to share one bucket of love with the special people in my life. Each one has their own bucket.”
Thankfully, Thornton didn’t appear to take the hurtful comments to heart, and she instead turned it into a learning experience for those unable to understand her ability to love after grief.