Temper tantrums! These two words send a cold chill to any parent who has watched their child grow. Most parents react differently when their child has a meltdown in the middle of a store or any public place. They will try to apologize to the people around or run out of the store out of embarrassment. However, one actor and his father showed us the positive side of a temper tantrum after his daughter decided to throw a good one at a local store.
Justin Baldoni, an actor on CW’s “Jane the Virgin” show posted a picture on Instagram, which went viral immediately after sharing. The picture spoke volumes about the current incident while the caption he wrote inspired many parents all over the world. The photo featured Baldoni and his father standing over his daughter, Maiya who seemed to have assumed the position of a full-blown tantrum with her face down on the floor of Whole Foods supermarket.
“It’s now one of my favorite photos ever of me and my dad,” Baldoni wrote.
The celebrity and his father seemed less bothered by the situation as they just looked down at her in amusement. Emily, Baldoni’s wife, was also busy taking a picture of the three. At this time, you could be wondering how the three could just stand there and watch a kid in the middle of a meltdown.
However, Baldoni had an unexpected story to tell about this.
“There are no perfect parents, but one thing my dad taught me is to not parent based on what anyone else thinks,” he wrote.
Baldoni refers to Maiya’s tantrum as “being comfortable in the uncomfortable.” In his post, Baldoni recalled the moments when he would throw such tantrums at a very age but his dad allowed him to feel what he needed to feel even if it was in a public space. The actor added that not even one day did he try to silence him or act embarrassed for his actions. Baldoni continued to write that he never realized how important this was in his life until later when he discovered that his father’s reaction contributed significantly to his emotional development.
“My dad always let me feel what I needed to feel, even if it was in public and embarrassing,” he wrote.
Baldoni was doing the exact thing that his father allowed him to do over three decades ago, this time with his daughter. In his social media post, the actor went on to write that at such a tender age, the kids were in the developmental stage.
This means that have a lot of information to process and most of the times they do not know what to do with it. Therefore, he makes it his duty to make his daughter know that it is all right for her to feel so deeply. He went on to add that he is never embarrassed when his daughter throws one of those huge tantrums whether at the grocery store or on a plane.
“Our children are learning and processing so much information and they don’t know what to do with all of these new feelings that come up,” he wrote.
“Let’s not be embarrassed for our children.”
Justin Baldoni concluded his caption by saying that parents should not be embarrassed when a toddler throws tantrum in a public space. He added that if only people were lenient with themselves and released all types of emotions that they felt—we would also feel more joy and happiness.
“And that is something this world could definitely use a little more of,” he wrote.
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The society has taught us to suppress our emotions and keep everything to ourselves right from a tender age. That is why we will always be embarrassed when a child decides to throw a tantrum in public. However, I believe that we would be raising the most compassionate generation if we allowed our children to feel and express their emotions. According to Baldoni, never getting upset does not make us bad parents; it only allows our children to express themselves and helps them grow their emotional strength.