It seems like every day no matter where you look you see a woman posting photos of her flashy new engagement ring or a man sharing how he took his long-time girlfriend on a trip of a lifetime and asked her to be his wife. One of the things that these all seem to have in common is a large amount of money was involved. When did expressing your love for someone involve so much money?
That’s what Ariel McRae wants to know.
When Ariel was 20 years old she met her now husband, Quinn McRae online. The two exchanged phone numbers and for two days in a row they spent over six hours talking to each other on the phone. It was then that Ariel realized she had met her soulmate.
“If he had asked me to marry him the first time we met, I probably would have said yes,” she wrote.
The couple was so in love that they wanted to marry each other immediately.
In a post she shared on Facebook, Ariel admitted that the couple wanted to elope after only three months of dating, but figured it would be best if they waited awhile. But, after two years of dating they couldn’t wait any longer and decided to get married.
Even though, for many people an engagement ring is very important for Ariel it didn’t matter as much. She just wanted to be able to marry her best friend.
“He [Quinn] scraped up just enough money to buy me two matching rings from Pandora. Sterling silver and CZ [cubic zirconia] to be exact,” Ariel wrote.
The McRae’s don’t have a lot of money, but that doesn’t mean they love each other any less.
Ariel knew how hard Quinn worked for the rings and was very pleased with them, however what should have been an exciting moment when the couple purchased the rings quickly turned sour. While the McRaes were purchasing the rings, a saleswoman who was not helping them came over and shared her opinion about engagement rings.
“She said, ‘Y’all can you believe that some men get these as engagement rings? How pathetic,'” Ariel recalled.
The saleswoman at Pandora called the rings pathetic.
It was at that moment that Ariel noticed her husband’s face. He was suddenly embarrassed by his purchase. She wrote he had already felt poorly because he wasn’t able to live up to the images of rings Ariel pinned on her Pinterest and despite Ariel assuring him over and over that she was happy with what they could afford, Quinn was still upset.
Rather than give the saleswoman a piece of her mind, Ariel responded to the woman’s rude remark in a mature way.
“It isn’t the ring that matters, it is the love that goes into buying one that matters.”
Ariel went on to explain in her post how it wouldn’t have mattered to her if Quinn had given her a plastic ring from a gum ball machine, it’s the thought that counts.
She is careful to note how she’s not knocking anyone who is able to afford lavish rings, but simply wants people to know that it isn’t the cost of a ring or any other material item, for that matter, that determines how much you love someone. It’s all in your actions towards that person.
Read Ariel’s full post here.