No one enjoys endless housework, countless errands, or the mess that’s always present, but one mother recently shared on the Love What Matters Facebook page how in just a few years she’ll actually miss the chaos of raising a family.
While half of the those who commented on the post, which has been shared over 7,000 times, wrote they wouldn’t miss the actual mess, everyone agreed that it’s important to treasure these moments because they go by in the blink of an eye.
One mother commented how she’d miss the mess she always seemed to be cleaning.
Maria Tarkany shared how there used to be days when she wondered if she’d ever be able to catch up with the piles of laundry, the stack of dishes, or the errands that weren’t going to run themselves.
Then she realized she didn’t have to be “Super Mom.”
Soon her living room would go from being constantly messy to consistently spotless.
One evening as she was tidying her family’s living room she came to another realization. One day the mess she always tried to keep manageable was going to be gone. And while the idea might sound like a relief she found herself upset.
I spent a while organizing the living room, tonight. Once I was finally done, I sat on the clean floor and cried. I cried, because I’m going to miss this…I’m going to miss the asparagus, rice and carrots that fell from Joey’s high chair and mixed into the toys on the floor. I’m going to miss constantly making sure Neva didn’t leave any little toys around that Joey could choke on. I’m going to miss the yogurt finger prints all over the couch, and the Cheerios under every piece of furniture. I’m going to miss my babies needing me next to them, so they can fall asleep.
Her comment resonated with hundreds of parents.
Parenting is a lifelong job that goes through different stages.
Many reminisced about the days when their children were little, but also pointed out that watching their children grow was just as special. As for missing the mess, well, that was an unpopular opinion.
“Time sure flies! But don’t fret over that,” Cynthia Baron Coleman wrote. “You’ll enjoy, just as much, the next stage of parenting. When they turn into teens. . .you’ll count the days for them to leave and to one day bring you those darling grandchildren.”
Tarkany agreed. While she simultaneously treasured the moments she currently shared with her children and mourned the day those moments would end, she expressed hope for the day she’d experience similar moments with her future grandchildren.
“One day, before we know it, we will only have a small toy box for our grandkids that I will lug out every now and again… and I’ll tell my kids when they try to help clean it up before they leave, that it’s OK—I can do it,” she wrote. “I’ll do it and I will cry just like I did tonight; because it will seem like only yesterday, that I was picking up their toys…”