When happy couples tie the knot, the bride and groom vow to support each other in sickness and in health. Marriage vows aren’t supposed to be something you just say at the wedding, but a promise that is to be part of the continued journey a married couple takes.
This vow inspired Lexi Reed, 27, and her husband Danny Reed, 29–both morbidly obese–to shed the weight that had trapped them for decades.
But what really motivated the young couple to transform their lives was to fight for their future.
“This was never just about us, but the future of our family.”
Lexi and Danny tipped the scales at a combined weight of 770 pounds when they got married in October 2015. But just a few months after the wedding, the Indiana couple realized that if they wanted many more years together, if they wanted to be parents and grow old together, they had to lose weight. So on January 1, 2016, they made a New Year’s Resolution to get healthy together and never looked back.
“I knew I could never be a mom at the size that I was and that was one thing that motivated me,” Lexi said.
The pair started dating in 2007 and initially bonded over their unhealthy habits—mindlessly eating, watching television, and dining out.
“We never ate vegetables and never tried to be healthy, everything we ate would either be fried or from a fast food restaurant,” Lexi, a receptionist, readily admits.
At their heaviest, Lexi and Danny consumed a combined 8,000 calories per day–more than twice the calories that the average adult requires. He was 280 pounds at 5-foot-8 and she was nearly 500 pounds at 5-foot-6.
“We put on a lot of weight together,” she said. “Most days we would go to a Chinese buffet and eat 3 to 4 plates each before getting home and ordering takeaway.”
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On an Instagram page that chronicles their weight loss journey–FatGirlFedUp, Lexi has said that her love for her husband and their wish to start a family together is what really motivated her to change her life.
“We wanted to be parents one day and knew it wasn’t a healthy option for us unless we changed, and together the future ‘baby Reed’ gave us hope and motivation,” she wrote on an Instagram post.
The 485 pound, 26-year-old Lexi has also said she realized not only was her obesity preventing her from being the wife her husband deserves but it would also shorten the amount of time they had together.
“I knew [Danny] deserved a wife that could do the things he enjoyed and was healthy most of all.”
Lexi and Danny both wanted children and that dream fueled the couple to support each other and achieve their goals.
After their resolution, a friend dared them to go one month without drinking alcohol, having a cheat meal, or going to eat—and they accepted that dare. The couple also started working out together regularly and Lexi vowed to do 30 minutes of cardio at the gym 4 days a week.
“I just felt happier. I felt proud of myself,” Lexi told TODAY. “I was accomplishing something and I was finally doing something.”
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Both Lexi and Danny were adamant about transforming their lives by making small changes on a daily basis. Instead of eating out, they cooked healthy versions of their favorite foods at home and prepped their meals for the work week.
“I think that’s what made it easier, we didn’t feel like we were depriving ourselves of our favourite foods,” Lexi said.
“Danny was really supportive and we started to make everything from scratch at home, we found alternatives ways of eating food that we loved, so we would still eat pizza but it would be a healthy option.”
They exchanged their regular trip to McDonald’s for a homemade, healthy version of a traditional burger. Their bun-less burgers feature an onion, a meat patty, and ketchup wrapped between two pieces of crunchy lettuce. Instead of pairing their burgers with fries, the health-focused pair served themselves celery sticks.
“We just switched the fast food for healthy choices,” Lexi said.
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Every month Lexi would lose about 20 pounds, and every month, as her body changed, so would her fitness strategy.
“My weight loss has slowed and I have picked up the intensity of my workouts and adjusted my calories to continue losing consistently,” she said.
At first, doing 30 minutes of cardio four days a week was a major challenge. But Lexi was persistent and eventually was able to do an hour of cardio five to six days a week and even added Zumba to her schedule–all alongside her husband.
Slowly but surely, they both began to shed the pounds.
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While losing weight allowed them to feel better mentally, emotionally, and physically, it also made the couple’s love for each other grow even stronger.
“This helped our relationship a lot and that is pretty cool,” said Danny,
Some individuals may not look forward to their daily workouts, but Lexi and Danny love spending time together, working out side by side.
“It’s awesome because we have each other.”
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Lexi simply credits her success to diet and exercise. “You don’t have to have surgery, and you don’t have to pay crazy amounts of money just to eat healthy or to have a trainer. Just move, start walking — all those things are just going to make a difference,” she said.
She fell in love with taking care of herself and said changing her perspective truly changed her life. “I changed my mindset & decided i wasn’t going to focus on the 300+lbs to lose but instead each day.”
She also notes that the most important thing is to set doable, daily goals, to hold yourself accountable and to never give up. On her Instagram page that has garnered almost half a million followers, she has said, “find your balance & moderation. This is not just a diet – this is my long-term lifestyle change I can stick too.”
“It’s a journey not a sprint.”
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Since January 1, 2016, Lexi has lost 303 pounds and Danny has lost a whopping 89.4 pounds. Lexi has documented their journey on her Instagram page FatGirlFedUp—which has attracted almost half a million followers with her inspiring posts—to encourage others to take control of their health, their lives, and their future.
Her philosophy is simple: “small changes add up to big results”. A motto which Lexi believes will help anyone meet their weight loss goals. What’s next for Lexi and Danny? If their wishes come true, the arrival of their first baby.
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