Bride does something unconventional instead of tossing bouquet—insists it shouldn’t be controversial

"She can take it from here"
October 20, 2017 5:16 pm Last Updated: January 15, 2018 12:10 pm

Being a bride is one of the most special things that can happen in a woman’s life.

For many women, their wedding day is the one day in their lives that’s all about them (and their husband, of course). It’s their one opportunity to be truly, wholeheartedly the center of attention with zero judgment from anyone.

For this bride, though, the opportunity to be a part of something incredible for one of her best friends ended up winning out over her desire to have “her day.”

Jess Nakrayko was excited to have her best friend Jessica Kieley be a part of her wedding day as her bridesmaid.

Jess Nakrayko, a native of Saskatoon, Canada, was elated to share her wedding day with her best friends—but most importantly, she was thrilled that her very best friend, Jessica Kieley, would be by her side as she married the love of her life.

Kieley had been a key part of the entire wedding process, planning Nakrayko’s bachelorette party for her to perfection and serving as the perfect support system. With Nakrayko’s sister living across the world in Australia, Keiley had taken it upon herself to be the perfect bridesmaid.

She not only planned the bachelorette party and flew out to Montreal to make it happen, but she planned the bridal shower single-handedly and helped make the entire wedding process easy and bearable for her friend as the big day approached.

Nakrayko knew that Kieley would be bringing her long-time boyfriend, Adam, with her to the wedding.

What Kieley didn’t know, though, was that Nakrayko and Kieley’s boyfriend Adam had something up their sleeves.

Before Nakrayko began planning her wedding, Kieley had moved into a new house with Adam—but the long, arduous process of helping to plan the wedding and serve as Nakrayko’s primary support system had left her putting off talks of her own long-term plans.

She and Adam hadn’t had much of a chance to breathe since moving into their new home, and he was hoping to propose to her soon.

Nakrayko and Adam talked about the matter ahead of the wedding. He wanted to propose during the wedding festivities—the destination location was Jamaica, and he thought it would be the perfect backdrop for popping the question—but he didn’t want to in any way overshadow Nakrayko’s big day.

He talked it out with her, trying to plan how to both make the proposal special without stepping on Nakrayko’s toes.

That’s when her sister had an idea.

According to the Huffington Post, Nakrayko revealed that her sister had an idea to use the bouquet toss to set the tone. It would be the last duty of the wedding, so wouldn’t interfere with the first dance, the speeches, or the reception for the newlyweds.

“What if,” her sister suggested, “instead of tossing the bouquet…”

The plan was hatched. Nakrayko would pretend she was getting ready to toss the bouquet, making sure that Kieley was focused on the event at hand. Then, she would abruptly change course—and instead of tossing it, she would hand the bouquet to Kieley.

Adam would sneak behind his girlfriend while she was focused on the bouquet and get on one knee, then pop the question once she realized what was going on.

They kept the plan as secret as possible. Only Nakrayko and her sister, Adam, Nakrayko’s husband James, and the wedding photographer and DJ would know what was going on.

“I’m really nervous; I’m really scared, but I think your plan’s going to work,” Adam told Nakrayko beforehand, according to

Then, the moment came.

Nakrayko planned for the DJ to start the toss by playing Shania Twain’s “Man, I Feel Like A Woman,” but then, they switched the song to Bruno Mars’ “Marry Me.” Nakrayko got down and walked over to her best friend, then handed the bouquet over.

“Turn around!” she exclaimed.

Sobbing, her best friend turned to face the man of her dreams, and two wishes came true that evening.

One of the most beautiful and unselfish things I've ever witnessed shooting weddings… Leading up to the wedding Jessica's bridesmaid and best friend (also Jess) worked tirelessly to ensure the preparations and wedding day were perfect. To show her appreciation the bride decided to share her special day with her friend, coordinating the proposal with Jess' boyfriend. Instead of throwing the bouquet, the bride spun around and walked over to her best friend. Everything froze as she said "Jess… turn around…" #destinationweddingphotographer #theknot #greenweddingshoes @greenweddingshoes #junebugmagazine #photobugcommunity @photobugcommunity #wedding #lookslikefilm @lookslikefilm #intimatewedding #weddingdress #bride #exploretocreate #chasinglight #togetherweroam

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For those who were surprised that Nakrayko would be willing to share the spotlight, she insists the move shouldn’t be controversial at all. The day should be all about sharing love, she claims

“My best friend was starting her love story—I didn’t even think about that being me giving up my day. I have love and I want people close to me to have that love too,” she told Huffington Post.

And just getting to see the look on her best friend’s face when she said yes, after watching her selflessly pour herself into the wedding planning for months ahead of time, was enough for her.

“She can take it from here,” she laughed.

The moment was captured by the photographer perfectly. It’s hard to top that kind of proposal.