Relationships are a tricky thing to maneuver, especially when you have to deal with a significant other’s ex-partner.
How do you handle it then? Do you try to be friends? Do you act like you hate that person? Would there actually be a reason for any animosity?
In his case, Wade Wagnon wanted to take the high road.
The man is approaching his fifth anniversary with his wife, Annette.
But like 50 percent of America, Annette was once in a failed marriage.
The catch is that Annette’s ex-husband, Chris, is very good friends with Wade.
One can wonder if there would be any source of tension between the two, given the circumstances of the divorce between Chris and Annette—they were married for 16 years, after all.
In the beginning of his marriage with Annette, Wade didn’t know how Chris would react, so he decided to avoid him.
Wade had also been previously divorced, and knows what it’s like to see their former significant other go off with a different person.
The men first met at the birthday party for the son of Annette and Chris, years after Wade’s marriage to Annette—but the little tension there at the beginning faded almost immediately.
The two quickly found out they had similar senses of humor, and whatever animosity that could’ve come up between them was erased.
Wade doesn’t see their relationship in any way but a positive one.
“Every day, I see people, friends and strangers alike, not getting along,” he said. “You don’t have to do that. It’s a choice.”
It takes more effort to dislike someone than get along with them, so why spend that extra energy? This is exactly the mindset that Wade has.
Wade and Chris became close friends, and have never looked back.
The two have gone out to bowling, golf, and movies, among other extracurricular activities.
He could’ve held a grudge against Chris, but he decided to hold no ill will towards him.
And it was the right decision—family gatherings don’t have to be awkward, and the family can just be more harmonious in general.
Wade also recognizes that Chris still wants to be the best father possible to he and Annette’s kids, so if anything, the synergy between the two strengthens their relationships with the younger generation.
From the sound of it, Wade doesn’t regret his friendship with Chris one bit.
“He inspires me to be a better man.”
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