Roles in the household have been rigidly defined throughout history. Traditionally, the breadwinner works 40 hours each week, while the other person stays home and fulfills domestic duties.
The male partner has predominantly been the money earner in the relationship, while women have nurtured the children at home.
The result is a worn-out wife and mother who works 24 hours a day, every day, all year. Meanwhile, exhaustion from a full-time work week is used as ammunition to shirk responsibilities at home.
Dale Partridge, a father in Bend, Oregon, made a post on Facebook in 2016 urging fathers to avoid complacency.
“She spends all week serving me and the kids. I spend all week serving the bills. Most men think it’s a fair trade, but I doubt it,” Partridge writes in his post.
After watching his wife Veronica tuckered out from a day of chasing their little ones, Partridge didn’t feel it was right to wash his hands of his duties at home.
Just because he punched out at the office didn’t mean he was ready to punch out as a father. His message might have made a few of its readers uncomfortable, but for all the right reasons.
“Husbands, we are no more entitled to a restful weekend than our wives,” he wrote. “The luxury of rest is a gift many men steal from their wives each weekend.”
Without minimizing the fact that a full-time workload is very tiring, Partridge urged husbands and fathers to consider what their wives are going through at home.
Just because they don’t commute to an official workplace doesn’t mean they are lounging around the house. Mothers are always on the clock, and it’s the fact that they don’t get paid which makes them altruistic saints.
The father of three says that it is important to share the load, making sure he isn’t the only one who gets to relax.
She spends all week serving me and the kids. I spend all week serving the bills. Most men think it's a fair trade, but I…
There are no off-hours as a dad, something many exhausted men fail to realize when they get home. Divvying up responsibilities this way might make sense on paper, but in practice, one partner ends up with the short end of the stick.
Don’t expect this father and happily-married husband to kick back and take in a football game while his wife hustles about the house. If he’s not at the office, he’s splitting chores at home.