“Nobody marries planning a divorce,”—these were words of a divorce lawyer in Brazil. With this mindset, the lawyer doesn’t mind helping his clients reconcile even if that means losing a potential client.
Rafael Gonçalves is a lawyer from the small Brazilian town of Sao Sebastiao do Paraiso and has become famous for helping get a married couple back together by asking them four simple questions.
The young couple had gone to Gonçalves’s office to ask for a divorce and stated their reasons. But Gonçalves noticed that the couple seemed to still be in love and decided to help them.
He gave them a list of documents needed for the divorce and at the bottom, he wrote down four questions for them to answer before they return.
“1. Did I do everything I could to save this marriage?
2. Is a divorce really the best option today?
3. Who is influencing my decisions?
4. How many problems did you overcome together and how you met?”
The couple came back a few days later deciding against the divorce. They also snapped a photo of the questions and posted it on social media, hoping that this will help to salvage other marriages.
Speaking to Good News Network, Gonçalves explained his actions, “I don’t think I did anything special and, in my opinion, all my colleagues should act the same. Nobody starts dating planning to break up, and nobody marries planning a divorce. We live in a society that trade or throw something away instead of fixing it, and this is sadly applying to relationships, too.”
“Sometimes all it takes for a marriage to work is to find someone to pause a moment of conflict and allow them the opportunity to adjust. Truth be told, I still get requests of people needing help in their relationships and people letting me know that their lawyers started using the same questions,” he added.