It’s a parent’s job to raise their kids, offer them support, and prepare them for adulthood. That’s why parents are often more proud of their kids’ achievements than their kids are themselves.
Yet, for Patricia Love Davis and Kenneth McCray, the opposite is true. McCray is far prouder of his mother’s accomplishments than his own, because of everything, she’s been through.
Kenneth McCray’s father died when he was only 6-years-old. He thought he’d lose his mother, Patricia Love Davis, just a few years later.
McCray and Davis have certainly had it rough. When McCray was just 6-years-old, his dad died of an aneurysm. Then, five years later, he discovered his mother lying motionless on the couch. He thought she was napping and decided to join her.
Soon, however, his grandma noticed that Davis was in a coma, she had a rare form of Hodgkin’s lymphoma and needed to be treated in the hospital. Seeing her there, it reminded McCray of when he witnessed his dad on feeding tubes in the hospital, and he worried that she would suffer the same fate.
“He always associated going to the hospital (with dying),” Davis told TODAY.
“I just block it out. I was able to get past it, but it still gets to me,” McCray told TODAY.
Davis completed her treatments and has been cancer-free since. But, it wasn’t the end of the family’s tough times.
Davis made it past cancer but later became homeless. Nevertheless, she persisted and graduated college with her son.
In 2012, Davis lost her job when the government shut her branch of the state department of financial services down. She and her son were able to make it through on just her savings for a time but, in 2013, they lost their home.
Landlords were hesitant to rent to the family, so they stayed in a hotel. Soon though, their money ran out and they had to start staying with family and friends. This bout of homelessness caused McCray to put off college so he could work and provide for his mother.
This was never meant as the permanent plan though. McCray always wanted to attend college for computer science. So, when he was in his 20s, he started attending classes at Broward College in South Florida. Davis wanted an education too, so she joined him there studying Criminal Justice.
In May 2018, the mom and son duo graduated together. Both were excited although 25-year-old McCray gave an eye roll when his mom started gushing about his Associates Degree.
“It was so cool to be graduating with my baby,” Davis said. “I don’t think he was as excited as I was.”
Right now, McCray works as a bus boy for a restaurant although he plans on moving to Kissimmee, Florida with Davis soon. There he hopes to continue learning computer science and earn his bachelor’s. By doing this, he hopes to show the world…
“You can make it through anything,” he said. “Keep doing it until you get to the end.”