After 55 years, this mother is reunited with the daughter she was forced to give up

June 9, 2017 4:24 pm Last Updated: June 9, 2017 4:24 pm

 

After being separated for 55 years, this mother was finally reunited with the daughter she was forced to give up when she was 17-years-old. They had tried to find each other for decades, and now, almost by accident, have finally come together. 

Amy grew up knowing she was adopted, but never met her birth parents. Under her adoptive parents, she had a difficult and traumatic childhood. Her adoptive mother was abusive and mentally unstable, and took her own life when Amy was just 10-years-old. Her father was neglectful, and didn’t want the responsibility of raising Amy and her sisters. Therefore, the three siblings grew up on their own, and were constantly on the move from home to home.

“I always felt unwanted, insignificant and like I didn’t matter. I always wished I had loving parents who cared, like my friends had.”

Despite her upbringing, Amy didn’t let the actions of her parents influence her, and loved her own children unconditionally. Her first-born daughter, Jessica, has a rare genetic disorder called San Filippo Type A, which caused her mind and body to deteriorate after she turned two. Eleven months after having Jessica, Amy gave birth to her son, Trevor.

“I love her with all of my heart, but it was the hardest thing I’ve ever dealt with (not that I regret it).”

Throughout her years, Amy’s life went through many changes. She began working as a hairdresser when she was 19 while continuing to pursue her education. In 2005, she received her Master’s Degree in Public Administration.

Despite all the ups and downs and hardships she went through, Amy continued to search for her birth parents. She joined ALMA Society, a national adoption registry, and even requested the courts to unseal her adoption records. However, nothing seemed to work.

“At that point I decided to not try anymore, just give up. I decided it’s whom you grow up with that makes your family.”

Amy’s birth mother had discovered she was pregnant the summer of 1961. At the time, she was 17-years-old and going into her senior year of high school. The process was a whirlwind, with her parents making most of the decisions. “I can’t really say as to who or how they decided the baby needed to be adopted out nor do I remember being asked what I thought but the decision was made for me. I don’t remember fighting anyone just took the adults direction as to the way they felt it should be handled.”

She moved to another town 671 miles away. There, she attended night classes, while pregnant, to make sure she could graduate. After she gave birth to Amy, their time together was short-lived. She wasn’t allowed to hold her, and only after pleading with the nurses was she permitted to view her daughter through the nursery window.

“Every year after giving birth to my baby girl I would think of her, wondering how she was doing. Her birthday would roll around and it would be celebrated in my heart, thinking and hoping her life was going well and the adoptive parents were wonderful.”

Just as it seemed as though all hope was lost, Amy received a phone call that changed everything. Her birth family was also searching for her!

“After I spoke to my mom, it made me feel good that she had thought of me all my life and wondered how I was doing, remembered my birthday, and wanted to spend the rest of her life getting to know one another and our extended families.”

Their heartwarming reunion was captured on video and posted to Youtube by Josh Gilson.