This is a follow-up to a column I wrote a couple of weeks ago on New Year’s resolutions.
Most people make resolutions for the new year, probably because the new year makes us more aware of the passing of time and the dwindling sands in the hour glass. We feel we had better make changes now before it’s too late. But why not make these changes any time you feel the need?
I recently had dinner with a very dear friend who is a busy wife, mother and also has a very stressful job. She told me she decided to make some resolutions for the new year but with a difference.
Instead of vowing to do something or abstain from something every day for the rest of her life (sound familiar?), she decided to do something different for one day, every day of the week. Like breaking up a very difficult, daunting task into smaller, more manageable pieces.
This is what she does:
On Mondays she drinks more water. Notice I didn’t say she drinks more water every day, but just on Mondays.
On Tuesdays she has no sweets. Not her usual sweetened breakfast cereal, no cake, etc.
On Wednesdays my friend gives up snacks. That means no eating in between meals at all.
On Thursdays she doesn’t drink anything alcoholic.
Friday is her day to pamper herself and take special care of her skin, using a mask and special serums.
On Saturdays she exercises in a different way. Instead of going to the gym, she will dance around the room with her two-year-old. Or she might play music and dance by herself.
On Sundays she makes sure to eat more crunchy vegetables.
Well, surprisingly, or unsurprisingly, she found that her one-day resolutions carried over to other days. Giving up sweets on Tuesday wasn’t so hard, so she found herself abstaining the next day, too.
When my friend told me this, I thought it was a brilliant idea.
I’ve since told other friends about it and they agree that it’s brilliant and in many cases they have adopted it for themselves.
If you really want to change something in your life, try this ‘one-day at at time’ idea and see how it works.
Miriam Silverberg is a freelance journalist and owner of Miriam Silverberg Associates, a boutique publicity firm in Manhattan. She may be reached at firstname.lastname@example.org
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