We’ve compiled a list of 27 signs indicating genuine maturity – age is certainly not a surefire indication. It’s something that requires ample effort to achieve!
1. Realizing the consequences of your actions
Before saying or doing anything, you weigh the possible outcomes and think about how it will affect others. Acting impulsively can often backfire, especially if you’re acting on strong emotions.
2. Being able to keep long-term commitments
That means doing things you agreed to, even when you don’t feel like it.
3. Being grateful and gracious; not complaining
This means being appreciative for what you have, and taking the time to appreciate it.
4. Stopping to consider “what made him to do this to me” rather than wondering “why he did this to me”.
When you’re in an argument with someone, do you always hope that they’ll see your point of view and then they’ll eventually come around to see your thought process? Well, they’re probably thinking the same thing, too.
5. Having the ability to see a situation through various perspectives
Closing yourself off to just one way of thinking really limits your ability to empathize with others. It may be uncomfortable to change your perspective, but it’s a useful skill!
6. Listening to someone for the sake of understanding, rather than to respond to what they’re saying
There’s a difference between listening to someone and hearing them. Mature people can understand the message others are trying to convey, and really try to look at it rationally.
7. Being willing to change yourself for the better
Nobody’s perfect, and it’s useless to strive for perfection. However, improvement can be achieved through concentrated and consistent effort.
8. Having a strong set of personal values, and being confident in them
This will help you choose to do the right thing, and also the ability to stand up for fairness. Stephen Colbert’s Wake Forest commencement speech highlights the importance of having your own standards:
9. Being able to turn the other cheek and not wish harm onto others
Mature people know that revenge doesn’t actually settle things, and peace of mind comes from within.
10. Being genuinely happy for the successes of others without a trace of envy or jealousy
Maturity means you don’t define your own failures by the success of others.
11. Having the ability to distinguish between being self-critical and pessimistic
Knowing where you can improve is one thing, but always thinking you’re not good enough won’t get you very far.
12. Fully taking responsibility for your actions
Did you make a mistake? That’s ok, everyone does. The important thing is holding yourself accountable and owning up to it.
13. Realizing how much you don’t know
A mature person doesn’t assume they have all the answers and is willing to learn from others. They know there is always room to grow and improve and they find value in reaching out for help.
14. Being unmoved by criticism or flattery
Your own sense of failure or success should come from within, and be rooted in your established set of values and standards.
15. Being less argumentative, and instead have the goal to accommodate others
Instead of always fighting to have your way, maturity is realizing that some battles aren’t worth fighting. It often turns out better for everyone to be accommodating.
16. Saving more than you spend
Planning for the future means you’re willing to think ahead.
17. Having humility
Being humble about your successes speaks volume to your character. Maturity is about not being arrogant, and appreciating those who helped you become who you are today. Also, learning how to laugh at yourself and not taking yourself too seriously is important.
18. Knowing how to be patient
Sometimes, all you have to do is wait it out. Not getting frustrated over having to wait is both rewarding and wise.
19. Being able to take care of yourself as well as others
We all grow up under the care of our parents or guardians, but learning how to take care of ourselves is a process. Those who are mature also know how to cater to the needs of others.
20. Valuing long term benefits over instant gratification
Maturity is having the willpower necessary to reach your end goal, and to not get side tracked along the way.
21. Listening to things objectively and not taking everything personally
When you overcome the need to always justify yourself and argue whenever someone says something negative about you, you’re missing out on an opportunity to use this as a chance to make yourself a better person! Of course, it’s up to you whether or not what people tell you has merit and is worth taking into consideration.
22. Accepting things we don’t know
No one has all the answers, and that’s ok.
23. Being civil when you hear a differing opinion of your own
Sometimes it’s completely fine to agree to disagree, and leave it at that.
24. Avoiding conflict when necessary
Sometimes conflict is needed to resolve an issue at hand. Mature people know how to distinguish between the two situations.
25. Admitting when you’re wrong
Wanting to be right all the time is actually quite exhausting! Admitting to your faults is a mature way of accepting reality.
26. Being able to learn from mistakes and move on
Dwelling on the past will only hold you back.
27. Knowing your own strengths and weaknesses
Own your strengths – that’s how you can make sure you reach your full potential. Being aware of your weaknesses is also vital for knowing how to not let them hold you back.